Delayed Gratifacation

Then Peck talks of The Sins of the Father. If a child sees his parents day in and day out behaving with self-discipline, restraint, diligent and a capacity to order their own lives, the the child wall come to feel in the deepest fibers that this is the way to live.  If a child sees his parents day in and day out living without self-restraint or self-discipline, then he will come in the deepest fibers of being to believe that that is the way to live.

There is nothing more important then role modeling love.  When we love something it is of value to us, and when something is of value to us we spend time with it, time enjoying it and time taking care of it. Good discipline requires time.

The quality of discipline afforded by loving parents is superior to the discipline of unloving parents. Children perceive it when parents are willing to suffer with them. and although they may not respond with immediate gratitude, they will also learn to suffer. “If my parents are willing to suffer, then suffering must not be so bad, and I should be willing to suffer with myself.” Self discipline is self-caring. To feel valued is essential to mental health and is a cornerstone of self discipline. This is the beginning of self-discipline.